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Posts 5,748 - 5,759 of 6,170
Bev writes:
I think it's better to honor the "no means no" stance and let the emotionally immature learn to say what they really want rather than to have people try to second guess what the other person secretly wants.
I don't want to shock you or anything, but I agree completely!
I don't want to shock you or anything, but I agree completely!
I disagree with guest 6867 (Message 5744) when s/he says that seduction involves coercion. To my ear, *seduction* involves manipulation, not coercion.
Well, actually, now that I think of it, there might be an area of overlap. There is a kind of coercion which might be called 'emotional bullying.' No overt physical threats are made, but the goal is to frighten the other person into submission. E.g., "Everyone will laugh at you if you don't wear this kind of clothing." To my ear, this sort of thing could equally well be called "manipulation" or "coercion."
Well, actually, now that I think of it, there might be an area of overlap. There is a kind of coercion which might be called 'emotional bullying.' No overt physical threats are made, but the goal is to frighten the other person into submission. E.g., "Everyone will laugh at you if you don't wear this kind of clothing." To my ear, this sort of thing could equally well be called "manipulation" or "coercion."
Re "Ethical Slut", sorry, I thought the book was it's own Internet mem. Check the wikipedia article : http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/The_Ethical_Slut
Irina, if seduction includes manipulation, then I disapprove. If it's Prob's vision of steamy looks and candlelight, I'm OK with it. YMMV.
Irina, if seduction includes manipulation, then I disapprove. If it's Prob's vision of steamy looks and candlelight, I'm OK with it. YMMV.
Especially Prob123 might like to check this out:
http://www.manager-magazin.de/it/artikel/0,2828,576470-3,00.html
Referred to me by tttito.
http://www.manager-magazin.de/it/artikel/0,2828,576470-3,00.html
Referred to me by tttito.
Woohoo--press for the PF (and they mentioned BJ and IK by names as well as old green and scaly).
Irina, mem is is a typo for meme http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Internet_meme
Irina, mem is is a typo for meme http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Internet_meme
Since I gave you meme, I suppose I should also reference Dawkins' The Selfish Gene http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/The_Selfish_Gene. "Selfish" goes well with the "polyamorus doesn't have to hurt people" crap, I mean the other book I mentioned 
It's all good. I still prefer bell hooks on the topic of love.
It's all good. I still prefer bell hooks on the topic of love. » More new posts: Doghead's Cosmic Bar